Hello Journal & Friends,
I recently read a post by Dayne, at Coach Your Mind, that reminded me of the power of words. Specifically, the power to influence young minds... and the things that parents say to their kids that will last a lifetime. That's power.
Since there's no such thing as a perfect parent, that means we ALL have had things said to us that have hurt, or had a negative impact on our self-esteem... or made us doubt ourselves or our abilities.
A couple of years ago, I read something by some famous lady... I "think" it was Maria Shriver, but don't quote me on that...
She talked about her relationship with her Dad. She said when she walked into a room, he would light up, and she KNEW he was glad she was there. And he always told her that she could do ANYTHING, be ANYTHING she set her mind on. And... being a child... she believed her Daddy.
I was jealous.
What I wouldn't have given to have that kind of relationship with one so powerful in my life.
So, I have had to accept what was, and let go of what was NOT... of what I wished I would have had.
I refuse to be a victim of the past... to whine over what I think I "should have" been taught, to stay stuck in the scripts of the past, in the opinions about me that others might have had... to use my past as an excuse for my present.
I can grow, learn, change, improve, and... Lordy Lordy, even LIKE myself now! I am free to tell myself those things that I don't remember ever hearing growing up. That I CAN do whatever I want, dream whatever I want, and believe in myself.
I feel like I have this new belief in myself... it's new and fragile... just emerged out of the cocoon... it's wings still wet and not quite strong enough, yet. But it's THERE. I am just on the verge of trying it out, of taking off and flying.
It feels risky... a lot of unknowns... but also full of hope and life and expectation.
No matter what comes, I don't ever want to go back into the dark cocoon. I will keep going, no matter what.
I will say Yes to my future.
I will say Yes to each day.
I will say Yes to each moment.
"Oh Yes!"
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From Dr Phil's book: "Demand nothing less than the best of yourself and for yourself."
6 comments:
I'm choosing to live my life, too, Lorettta. It's the Spirit's word for today--Choose Life!
Deb
The butterfly has shown her wings now, there is no going back!
And thanks for all your encouraging words lately - I truly do appreciate them.
It seems to me that the best way to get past a childhood that was not ideal is to focus attention on cherishing those we love and letting our children know how much they are valued.
Beautiful and inspiring post!
Wooot! I can hear your strength rising in this post and your confidence. It is a beautiful thing to read. I think you will find this journey easier when you get those keys firmer in place.
I would love to have had a parent that lit up when I walked in. That has never happened for me. What it has done for me, is let me know that lack of money, intelligence, education, style, whatever it is I lack is unimportant to my kids. All they want is for me to love them and be happy with them. They might say they want this and that, but later in life, they will know, they had it all.
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