Hello Journal & Friends,
Oh noes, part three?!!
Well, in case anyone has time to kill and missed parts 1 & 2, here they are:
Now on to the spellbinding Part 3, ha ha ha:
I've spent years working to resolve past issues. I learned that "enduring" them doesn't solve a thing. They are still there, sending out subtle signals, and my response to that was to disrupt the signal by eating, so I wouldn't have to face it, to feel it.
The answer was to RESOLVE them, once and for all. Then put it to rest... make peace with it... learn from it... forgive and let go... whatever it took.
I was applying this principle from Dr Phil's book, The Ultimate Weight Solution:
"This key unlocks the door to emotional control so that you can quit looking to food for the answers to your emotional pain... heal your feelings so that your eating behavior is no longer fueled by harmful emotions."
Okay, that takes care of the past. But...what about ongoing life?? New stuff that comes up... pressures and stresses of life? I still felt that old pull to use food as my escape valve for current stuff.
That is where Dayne's post comes in, offering a different perspective. I had dealt with the past, but was still struggling to handle the present. I've made it this far, but at times came perilously close to the edge.
Dealing with the behavior--the desire to overeat--after the fact is one thing. I've tried to do that most of my life!
But this new way of thinking would help remove a lot of the desire to overeat before the fact... by changing my perception of pressure from a negative into a positive. Instead of running from it by eating, I would not feel that need, because I would now think of the pressure as a positive thing.
I would embrace it as an opportunity.
One of the quotes I like from Dr Phil's book says:
"One of the most critical ways to stop this behavior is to change the way you think and how you interpret events in your life. What you think determines how you feel."
I've read that one for YEARS. But it never ocurred to me to apply it to how I see the overall concept of pressure. I would apply it to specific events at times, but not the general, all inclusive concept of PRESSURE.
I had it stuck in my head that pressure was "bad", was negative, that "I don't like pressure". So, of course it caused me stress, and of course I did what I usually did in response to stress: I ate.
This must be getting redundant and boring to some by now. But for me, I am still rolling this around in my head, trying to get a firm grasp on it. It still feels "slick"... I don't have a good handhold on it yet. But I am determined to get there.
When asked "When Pressure Puts A Mirror To Your Face... What Do You See?" I want to see Opportunity. I am determined that my new response will be a positive one, seeing Strength, Achievment, and Spunk.
From Dr Phil's book: "Denial is a dangerous filter."
My verse for today: "The Lord is near."
My quote for today: "There are three kinds of men. The one that learns by reading. The few who learn by observation. The rest of them have to pee on the electric fence for themselves." --Will Rogers
Edited to add: If anyone is interested in the whole train of thought, here are all four parts to this epic: Part 1, Part 2, Part 3, Part 4