Hi Journal & Friends,
Someone once left a nice comment on my blog saying they thought I was "astute". While I enjoy compliments as much as the next guy, something in me usually deflects them, feeling like I don't fully deserve them. Or at the very least, I want to say something like "it didn't come easy to learn that!" or "I wish I had discovered that years ago" (I'm working on just saying "thank you").
I looked up the word Astute in my handy dandy computer dictionary, and here is what it said:
astute: having or showing an ability to accurately assess situations or people and turn this to one’s advantage
And I got to thinking of the context for which the comment was left. It had to do with something I wrote on Day 115: The battle is won or lost between the ears.
And guess what? I realized that although it DID take me years and years to learn this... I can truly say that I do finally GET IT. The battle IS won or lost in our thinking, our attitude, our beliefs... which drives our choices.
And these choices take us either TOWARD or AWAY from our goals, depending upon which choices we make.
I finally fully accepted this truth, which of course encompasses the idea of being responsible for those same choices. And I decided to use it to my advantage to help me do this thing I have been "trying" to do all my life... change.
How did I "turn this to one's advantage"? I decided to "brainwash" myself. Honestly, that was my plan. Not very fancy or deep sounding, is it?
I had read that you can't "unlearn" something, but you CAN learn new stuff. You can replace the old self-defeating thoughts and limiting beliefs with NEW healthy stuff.
I paid my dues. I spent the time. I made the effort. I can't begin to count up the days, weeks, months and YEARS that I "fed" on positive, hopeful, uplifting, encouraging, inspirational and motivating information.
And yes, I had to wade through my share of time-wasters. "Eat the meat and spit out the bones" is my philosophy.
We all want the short-cut, but there is none.
You must do it for yourself. We are all different, and will respond to different approaches.
I was choosey... if it was just so much useless intellectual psycho-babble, it didn't last long around me. Sorry it that sounds snitty... but this is life or death we are talking here. Remember, I allowed myself to get up to 460 pounds. I was desperate. I didn't have the time, health, or energy to waste on people only out to enhance their own ego with fancy theories or programs.
Wanna know my favorite in-a-nutshell plan?? A good solid, rubber-meets-the-road approach?? The down home but effective book written by Dr Phil McGraw, The Ultimate Weight Solution.
Like him or not as a person, this Texan wrote an effective book for anyone with a teachable heart who is READY to grab ahold of their life and turn it around... who is willing to assume responsibility for their choices and turn that into the POWER to reclaim their life.
If you need a plan, a track to follow, do yourself a favor, and pick it up... you can get it cheap at half.com or free at your library. As an aside, I once bought a copy of the book and mailed it to someone who claimed she could not afford it. I am not that naive anymore... now I can recognize an excuse when I hear it. LOL!
Anyway, at the bottom of each post here, you will notice a quote "From Dr Phil's Book". Well, that's the book to which I am referring.
Remember I said I wanted to "brainwash" myself?? I had read the book about 6 times, and I had marked it all up with different colors of highlighters. I took all my favorite underlined passages, and made little flashcards. I review one almost every day.
The reason they aren't boring to me is because I haven't mastered them yet! I am still learning to incorporate them into my daily life... to BE, DO, and HAVE this new way of thinking. Because I believe it with all my heart...
The Battle is Won or Lost
Between the Ears.
The Ancient Warrior, by Leonardo da Vinci
From Dr Phil's book: "Are your thoughts, beliefs, and attitudes moving you closer to what you want?"
My verse for today: Praise the Lord, O my soul. O Lord my God, you are very great; you are clothed with splendor and majesty."
My quote for today: "Many people would sooner die than think; in fact, they do so." --Bertrand Russell
Enjoy the Journey,