Good Afternoon Journal & Friends,
A couple of days ago it dawned on me that I'm a master... an expert... a black belt ninja! Only I wasn't too excited about what KIND of an expert I am...
I am an expert at Pain Avoidance.
As I got out of bed, carefully moving to avoid making anything worse... I realized I had been doing that all my life. Both physical AND emotional pain.
The physical pain avoidance is obvious. But then there's the emotional pain. Yep, that where the Caloric Opiates come in, right? The food... the distraction... the temporary feel-good chemicals from the sugar high. Yes, I've known about this for a long, long time. But somehow, it seemed there was something new to learn here...
These thoughts occurred to me in a flash, right as I was practicing my morning Attitude of Gratitude. I was thanking God for all the times He has brought me information, ideas, corrections, new instructions, etc. And was thinking of how many times I stiffened and resisted, yet He never gave up on me. And I was feeling thankful.
And that's when this new idea hit me. I already KNEW that pain is not a good motivator. It's not good to state our goals like: I don't want to be fat and old and weak and in pain.
No... I find it much more motivating to word it in the postitive, like so: I WANT to be healthy and strong and mobile!
So, I have to ask myself: Why do I wait til I simply can't STAND the pain of something, either physically or emotionally, to get off my duff and DO something about it?
And the answer came: Some things I don't DO, in order to avoid pain. And again, other things I DO do, in order to avoid pain.
It's all the same reason: to avoid pain. Whether physical or emotional.
Like... I finally started my latest Buns of Steel campaign to avoid the pain in my lower back and fractured tailbone. Yet... I was still resisting being consistent on OTHER exericse, because it was painful to get started. Pain avoidance.
And still, after all the times I've posted "Face Your Stuff, Don't Stuff Your Face", I tend to put off facing my issues. Pain avoidance, again.
And I even recently avoided watching a short video posted by a blogger that I highly respect. Why?? Because of the very TITLE of the post??!!
It was titled: "Pain Is Good, Short Term Pain Equals Long Term Success" by Coach Dayne at Coach Your Mind.
Can ya see why someone like ME, a ninja Master at pain avoidance, wouldn't want to watch that??!! Only... at the time I didn't realize WHY I didn't want to watch. Oh, I told myself "I'm too busy, I'll come back later." Uh-huh... didn't come back. In fact, right this instant, I still haven't watched it. Okay... take break... off to watch...
I'm back. And I have to say... Coach Dayne is a Secret Weapon. His blog has touched my life, and made a difference in my "mental game". You don't have to be a real athlete to glean terrific insights and strategies from him. If you haven't read his blog Coach Your Mind, I highly recommend it, including the archives which are loaded with hidden treasure... really!!
And his video confirmed I am on the right track, even though my first instinct was to resist.
All of my pain avoidance shows I was doing the very thing I have recently been studying: being reactive, instead of proactive. Reacting to the pain, by either DOing or NOT doing a thing... instead of taking charge and making my decisions based on what I WANT, instead of based on trying to avoid something.
Going TO something, not running FROM something.
That's what I really want to learn... to be free from that old Pain Avoidance mentality, and instead choose to take action from a positive motivation.
So, like Coach Dayne says on the video, to overcome our barriers... to reach our goals and achieve our victories: Invite the fight!
PS: Thank you to all who asked... my Vampire Eye is getting better. :-)
From Dr Phil's book: "Change will happen because you make it happen."
My verse for today: "I sought the Lord, and he answered me; he delivered me from all my fears."
My quote for today: "I don't care how old I live; I just want to be LIVING while I am living! --Jack LaLanne
Enjoy the Journey,