It finally dawned on me one mistake I made last year. I don't regret it, really. I mean, we try stuff and sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't.
My mistake? Thinking it was MY TIME to find "balance".
I know, I know. Balance is a "good thing". I agree.
At the right time.
But for me, it was too soon. Or at least, for "my" definition of balance, and how that played out in my life.
act of concentrating interest on something
center of interest or activity
pay particular attention to
zoom in on
to zero in
I'm working on re-focusing... on letting go of the extra fluff that fritters away my time and energy and doesn't get me any closer towards my goals. If I keep diluting my energies, it will only drag this out longer than it needs to be!
I want to fill my mind with things that help keep me on point. That'll be different for each of us, according to our belief systems. But here are some quotes that I believe are true, and can apply to most of us:
"The first requisite for success is the ability to apply your physical and mental energies to one problem incessantly without growing weary." --Thomas Edison
"You'll never achieve extraordinary results by taking average measures." --Skwigg
"Commitment is doing what is necessary, interest is doing what is convenient." --John Assaraf
"Your life is entirely what you decide it is. The universe starts in your head and spreads out into the world. Change what happens in your head and the universe changes." --W Mitchell
"To succeed, you need to take that gut feeling in what you believe in and act on it with all your heart." --Christy Borgeld
"What I've found is that you can't make a half-hearted swipe at this and expect to be successful. You really need to throw yourself into what you're doing, commit to making big changes and do everything in your power to stick with them." --Jack Sh*t
"Some define obsession as negative. I say it's how you get things done." --Mark Twight
"Be miserable. Or motivate yourself. Whatever has to be done, it's always your choice." --Wayne Dyer
"Concentrate all your thoughts upon the work at hand. The sun's rays do not burn until brought to a focus." --Alexander Graham Bell
"My ability to concentrate and work toward that goal has been my greatest asset." --Jack Nicklaus
"I've always believed that if you put in the work, the results will come. I don't do things half-heartedly because I know if I do, then I can expect half-hearted results." --Michael Jordan
"Don't join an easy crowd, join a successful crowd where the expectations are high and the payoff is great." --Jim Rohn
If you read those quotes and instead of finding some that resonate with you, you start arguing with the fine points, then you want to be right more than you want to change. Eat the meat an' spit out the bones. :-D
Bottomline, our success on this weight loss/fitness/health journey isn't just going to "happen". If we don't make it a priority, if we don't MAKE time to invest in our thinking, our mindset, then we are being unrealistic. We are playing with it... dabbling at it. We are a-hoping an' a-wishing and waiting for that "miracle" to just happen, without being willing to pay the price.
The price? Time.
Time spent whatever is the best way for each of us, individually, to improve our mindset. To throw out the old crappy thinking patterns, and replace them ON PURPOSE with truth:
That we DO have a choice.
That we CAN make healthy changes.
That we are NOT victims.
Clean out the MindJunk
and sow healthy ThoughtSeeds!
Don't know where to start?? If you don't already have resources, here's some I really like:
And a new one I just recently found, thanks to Margene at Believing It's Possible is Half The Battle:
Tommy Newberry, author of The 4:8 Principle (which I bought and LOVE LOVE LOVE)
We've all heard it a million times: What you focus on will grow.
Focus on the "fact" that you are a "food addict", and that reality will gain power.
Focus on the "fact" that you have a choice to HEAL and be FREE from being a food addict, and guess what??
Yep, that reality gains power.
I'm speaking from personal experience. No, I have no double-blind studies to quote, or letters after my name. But smarter folks than I am teach this, and I've found it is TRUE!! I refuse to keep claiming that label of Food Addict any longer. No more cop-outs.
Oh, you say you're just being "honest", and you are not in denial?? Okay, fine. How's that working for you?? :-O
I won't argue with an individual about it, since we each have to find what works for US. But if it's NOT working for you to insist on wearing that label, then why not consider changing your mind?? Why not consider that every time you insist that you ARE still a food addict, you are giving away your power to a label, and making it your identity?
Why not at least say I USED to be a food addict, and am now busting free!! That's what I say, and now it's TRUE in my mind and life.
Try it.. what have you got to lose... except pounds. :-D
From Dr Phil's book: "Change your thinking to change your weight."
My verse for today: "But let all who take refuge in you be glad; let them ever sing for joy."
My quote for today: "Let us not be content to wait and see what will happen, but give us the determination to make the right things happen." --Peter Marshall
Enjoy the Journey,