Tuesday, January 3, 2012

JAN 3rd I'm Stubborn! Are You??


Good afternoon Journal & Friends,

Okay... so here's what I was thinking the other day:

Stubbornness 
can be a good thing 

It all depends how you use it. Recently I was feeling Stubborn, so for the fun of it I put on the donkey earrings my sister made for me.





I am stubbornly believing that even though I'm not a young chick, I can still lose weight and get healthier.

I am stubbornly clinging to my opinion that it's the MENTAL ASPECT of this journey that will be the deal breaker. Too Busy to work on that? Ignore it at your own peril.

I am stubbornly determined to ignore the people that say I must be "realistic" about my goals to get out of a wheelchair. Not only do I want to ditch the wheelchair, I want to go on to someday ditch the walker and then the canes!

I am stubbornly protective of my way of eating, not giving in to societal pressures to "be polite". I don't DO sugar and flour. Period. If people don't like that, that's THEIR problem. I don't push it on others; they shouldn't push their junk on me. It's just what *I* need to do to reach my goals. 

I am stubbornly rejecting pity, disrespect or being patronized. I've finally learned to respect myself, so why would I allow less than that from others? I am kind when possible, but I stand up for myself now when needed. No apologies.

I am stubbornly NOT running with the "easy crowd" any longer. You know, the forums that talk and whine and pat each other on the back for repeatedly doing the opposite of what they claim to want: to lose weight and get healthy. I'm NOT talking about learning and growing, finding our own key, the whole process we all must go through. I AM talking about the "but" people. Those that whine over and over and over and OVER about the same thing, and when offered suggestions, ideas or advice, always respond with "yes BUT". That might be a clue they aren't ready to change. I recognize it ... because I used to BE one of them. I don't wanna be that way any more... I want to learn and change.

I am stubbornly determined to succeed. To claim 2012 as MY YEAR. To make amazing, astounding, fantastic and COLLOSAL progress this year! 

I am stubbornly going to be DEAF to the Naysayers and Eyebrow Raisers that think if you reach up for a huge goal you must be either stupid, arrogant, or setting yourself up for a huge, humbling and disappointing failure.

Why?? 

Why must excitement and determination be equated with cockiness?
 Why are we afraid to declare our intentions of victory with certainty?
 Why are we scared to stick our necks out, boldly and with passion?

I'll tell you why: because we are gauging our chances of success by our PAST failures. 


I am stubbornly refusing to do that any longer. My past failures are no longer the yardstick by which I am measuring my future. I am breaking that sucker in half... SNAP!

Sure, I've made a lot of mistakes in my past efforts. But I've also done some stuff right. So I am drawing upon THOSE victories. I am building a New History from them. I've found a lot of things that DO work for me, and will use them as my tools. Successful things about exercise, nutrition, and the mental stuff. Those make up my NEW yardstick.

I am going to be STUBBORN in 2012 
And that's a good thing



PS: If  you missed my poll on Sunday, I'd love it if you did a quick skim of that post, HERE, and left a comment with your suggestion. I'm going to tally and submit them soon. Thanks!


From Dr Phil's book: "That's your priority. You must hold yourself to a higher standard now. You cannot be wishy washy."

My verse for today: "But as for me, it is good to be near God. I have made the Sovereign Lord my refuge; I will tell of all your deeds."

My quote for today: "When we are no longer able to change a situation we are challenged to change ourselves." --Viktor Frankl

Enjoy the Journey,

Loretta
=^..^=

DAY 869

15 comments:

BEE said...

great post
cheers to being stubborn!!!!!
its the only way to get things done right lol!!!

Anonymous said...

:D :D :D :D !!!!!!!!!!

Deb
the Determined!

Jules said...

I like EVERYTHING you wrote..and I like the stubborn theme. funny, you know my word is confidence but I had the same questions of why run through my head as I wrote my last few posts...

Why must excitement and determination be equated with cockiness?
Why are we afraid to declare our intentions of victory with certainty?
Why are we scared to stick our necks out, boldly and with passion?

But just like you but there IS something different this time..and I CAN equate it to all the hard inner work I have done...and you too.... xoxo

karen@fitnessjourney said...

Your attitude is so fabulous. The Yes, but...types get on my last nerves. Sometimes I feel harsh calling someone out on that type of response. It's so much easier to smile and offer a shoulder to cry on.

Anonymous said...

hey. I forgot to mention. Your sister did such a good job on those earings! So much talent in one family!! :)

Deb

Christine said...

of course i love this. One of my favorite comments EVER was a person who said on my blog "Wait till you get a year out, get hungry and gain it all back." I thought..YOU WAIT. lol. tell me i can't, go ahead. I will prove I can. That's the way I roll.

MargieAnne said...

I like my stubborn friend, Yay for you. I'm learning so much from you

Blessings

Princess Dieter aka Mir said...

YOu get a cheer from this corner. If you want to set big goals for a colossal year, then by golly, that's what you should do! And go for it! Dreaming big, doing big..why not?

And for those led to set modest goals, then that's great, too.

Follow your gut and your guidance...and then wow everyone!

Sharon said...

Loved the post and the sheer determination I see in those lovely blue eyes. I've often used the words radical and independent to describe myself, but stubborn works just as well. So I'm right there with you all the way!

mamajuliana said...

Ditto! Amen! Preach it, sister! And thank you AGAIN!!! for some good morning inspiration! I LOVE reading your blog in the AM. You get my day and positive attitude going!

Anne H said...

Your very own donkey ear rings... made for you long ago? Stubborn much? MAYBE!! That's awesome, actually! You'll be set for life.

debby said...

You go Loretta!

'Yellow Rose' Jasmine said...

Too many women feel that they must be soft, not too in your face. Not you & not me- be bold, not sweetly quiet. Get in the way and show the world what you've got. I just know you're gonna do so good. You've already shocked me with your 8lb. loss during the holidays. That's when I lost a bunch last year too. There's a lot to be said for that kind of determination. :)
Love the devil quote. I'm stealing it! ;)

Kat said...

Happy New Year Loretta! I support you in being stubborn...:-)

Anonymous said...

I had to jump right up and applaud!

Excellent post Loretta!!!

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