Day 55 of ReStart, Saturday Oct 3, 09
Over the years, in my search to "fix" me, I've read a lot of self-help books, articles on how-to this and how-to that, newsletters from self-proclaimed personal life coaches. Some has been helpful, some a waste of time.
One idea that I have been thinking about lately, that I think would help me is called the Theory of Constraints. Basically, it says that in any pursuit of a goal, there will be a bottleneck...that thing that slows down reaching the goal. The process either comes to a screeching halt, or goes slower than one would want.
So, the idea is to identify my main bottleneck, that thing I keep tripping over, and get it out of my path.The result of removing it is that the whole process of reaching my goal will be speeded up. The "experts" claim that concentrating my efforts on this one area is the most effective thing I can do to speed up the process of reaching a goal.
In asking myself what is holding me back...what do I keep stumbling over again and again...I would have to say, at this point in my journey, it's this time management thing. Since yesterday, I have been thinking about it a lot....running it through my imagination, and seeing how it would play out if I WERE consistent on my schedule. The imagined outcome is nice....I like it.
I made my WHY list Friday, and felt very encouraged (I talked about the WHY here). It refers to what Filippe from the Biggest Loser said: "You never do anything with all your heart unless your WHY is big enough."
I wrote at the top of a little yellow piece of paper: Hitch Your Wagon To A Star...drew a cute star next to it, and wrote out some short-term goals that improved Time Management will help me achieve very soon.
I wanted them to be short-term goals because, well, to be honest, I need fast pay-off for my efforts, so I don't fizzle out! And they are enjoyable goals, fun ones, so that I am connecting doing something that does not come natural to me (going to bed early and getting up early, and consistently following my daily schedule) with something that feels like a REWARD. I need that connection to something enjoyable, to condition my mind and emotions to really WANT to do this.
After my little list of 6 short-term goals, I made a little list of behaviors that will help me achieve getting rid of my roadblock. I always want to stay up at night and get things done...so I figured one way to help myself was to get caught up! I broke that down into 5 doable categories, that I will start on Monday...that's because when hubby is off work, usually on weekends, it is unrealistic to do anything extra.
I want to plan for success, not set myself up for failure by making unrealistic goals.
So, I am excited to start Monday...I won't get to play as much on the computer, but this is a worthy goal, and I am willing to pay that price.
I feel like I am making progress...now I am off to make homemade tomato soup with the last of our homegrown tomatoes. Yummmm...
From Dr Phil's book: "Take a problem-solving approach to emotion-provoking events."
My verse for today: "So do not throw away your confidence; it will be richly rewarded."
My quote for today: "Sometimes it is not good enough to do your best; you have to do what's required."--Winston Churchill
Enjoy the Journey,