tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-308288649463011906.post2668247361628401005..comments2023-09-29T03:52:25.620-07:00Comments on Loretta's Journey : Mar 10 Pain and PoundsRettahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10034267067410245582noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-308288649463011906.post-5322098035049210762011-03-13T03:21:49.256-07:002011-03-13T03:21:49.256-07:00You seem to have your Daddy's eyes as well as ...You seem to have your Daddy's eyes as well as his spunk and determination. I LOVE the mac n cheese "What then?" question. Must try to remember that question.... You are an amazing person, Loretta. I admire you so much.PeacefulBirdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09115778928757133796noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-308288649463011906.post-46558022943021479642011-03-11T21:41:18.321-08:002011-03-11T21:41:18.321-08:00So powerful! I love this. I bet your daddy would...So powerful! I love this. I bet your daddy would be proud of that thinking and glad he influenced his daughter in such a way.Weighing Wellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14405732578239574618noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-308288649463011906.post-16192641719759147832011-03-11T14:25:17.371-08:002011-03-11T14:25:17.371-08:00Wow. You never cease to inspire me.
Grief goes on...Wow. You never cease to inspire me.<br /><br />Grief goes on for as long as it does. It does sneak up on us. It's all right to feel sad and deflated and like you've been kicked in the gut. That's how it always feels to me. And you do miss them. But realize you also always carry them.<br /><br />Hugs to you, and I am duly impressed by your dedication and turn of mind on old habits.M Paxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14096697282530998519noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-308288649463011906.post-53701017285233521212011-03-11T03:22:33.929-08:002011-03-11T03:22:33.929-08:00Im with yellow rose.
and am glad to see youve shi...Im with yellow rose.<br /><br />and am glad to see youve shifted your mindset yet still feel called to remind you this is YOUR PLACE.<br /><br />vent share moan lament---we're here to support and listen.MizFithttp://www.mizfitonline.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-308288649463011906.post-46900265596027670272011-03-10T21:54:31.951-08:002011-03-10T21:54:31.951-08:00Many of the others have said it so well, so I will...Many of the others have said it so well, so I will be brief here: <br />When we know better, we do better and it sounds like you have really gotten the message loud and clear if you can do so well while I know you are hurting much.<br />I too have taken note of the automatic responses to stress that I have relied on in the past and boy was I surprised when I realized what one little phone call can do to me, so I really do see what a courageous woman you have become.'Yellow Rose' Jasminehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12496382898548158316noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-308288649463011906.post-39491250476079901072011-03-10T20:49:08.337-08:002011-03-10T20:49:08.337-08:00It's hard on good days...on days or weeks lik...It's hard on good days...on days or weeks like the one you had...even harder. Glad you have pulled it back and are using your dad's memory as inspiration. Hugs loretta!Christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13708815560712267698noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-308288649463011906.post-18032837373940382182011-03-10T18:50:12.806-08:002011-03-10T18:50:12.806-08:00Oh Loretta, I am so sorry for the loss of your dad...Oh Loretta, I am so sorry for the loss of your dad. Your tribute to him was just beautiful. thank you for sharing him with us. I will keep you especially in my prayers this week. That Jesus will be enough for you. That he will give you extra comfort, and extra joy and strength and peace.debbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17967505760808535408noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-308288649463011906.post-19079870390306360822011-03-10T17:45:50.612-08:002011-03-10T17:45:50.612-08:00I think having that sense of awareness that a bing...I think having that sense of awareness that a binge is not going to help is a wonderful thing.<br /><br />This must be a very hard time for you...stay strong.<br /><br />Hugs to you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-308288649463011906.post-76390161137128221832011-03-10T17:26:15.323-08:002011-03-10T17:26:15.323-08:00When food has been our tried and true go to soluti...When food has been our tried and true go to solution for EVERYTHING, no matter how many other tools and coping skills we've developed, no matter how long or hard we've practiced them, no matter how skilled we have become--when a primal, gut-wrenching, life-changing event occurs, we will instinctively revert to what was our first-learned line of defense and most familiar way to comfort ourselves. <br /><br />That was a rather long way of saying that when we hurt badly enough or are frightened enough, our anguished child wants what has always soothed her.<br /><br />It just is what it is. You have done a masterful job in overcoming that as well as you did! Shows how deeply you've imbedded your new way of looking at food.<br /><br />Good job, WLW, under the most difficult of circumstances--well done.<br /><br />DebAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-308288649463011906.post-78110025374496650972011-03-10T17:23:58.304-08:002011-03-10T17:23:58.304-08:00Glad you're hanging in there and not letting t...Glad you're hanging in there and not letting the food have control of you just remember you are in charge always of YOU. Hugsbbubblybhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06423578980112090148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-308288649463011906.post-36602792425502566232011-03-10T16:25:23.919-08:002011-03-10T16:25:23.919-08:00Yeah Loretta is back.Yeah Loretta is back.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-308288649463011906.post-64385601073070194132011-03-10T13:00:15.524-08:002011-03-10T13:00:15.524-08:00Loretta, I am so sorry to hear your sad news. Your...Loretta, I am so sorry to hear your sad news. Your dad was a very handsome, strong looking man. Being orphaned hurts no matter what age it happens. Be gentle with yourself my sweet friend.<br /><br />Big Hugs<br /><br />SheilaghSheilaghhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02774960303127922257noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-308288649463011906.post-50543021013319896282011-03-10T12:39:46.069-08:002011-03-10T12:39:46.069-08:00JAN: Oh, I appreciate your reflections. I can see ...JAN: Oh, I appreciate your reflections. I can see you understand. Back on 2004, when my Mom died, I gained around 20 pounds. So it's kind of like... been there, dun that. I am so aware that I am a "user", and food is my drug of choice. Even so, it still sneaks in under the radar. Especially when I am not actively making an effort to resist.<br /><br />I soo know what you mean about the grief coming in waves. Yes, it's just like that, for me, too. And all mixed up with thoughts of not getting to see him recently due to the weight, not getting to say goodbye... missing out on his funeral... all that. <br /><br />Feeling like an orphan... that's a new one for me. Now they are all gone... my Momma, my Dad, my Step-Dad. And it hit me hard this week. I'm 60...yet feeling like an orphaned kid. Weird...<br /><br />Thanks for your understanding,<br />LorettaRettahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10034267067410245582noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-308288649463011906.post-76658324949684961452011-03-10T12:19:32.269-08:002011-03-10T12:19:32.269-08:00How great that you were able to pause long enough ...How great that you were able to pause long enough to keep the mac n cheese out of your mouth and then to think about the consequences. What an accomplishment!<br /><br />Feeling like an orphan - I experienced that after my Mother died this past year (and my Dad is still alive). Irrational, you bet. Grief is what it is. It will come and go in waves. For me it was sometimes a tsunami, sometimes just small tides. After almost 8 months my grief still pops up unexpectedly (like when I was on vacation at the beach last week, Mom's favorite place), but it no longer provokes child-like emotions. I miss her just as much. I appreciate her even more. But, I no longer feel the need to celebrate her memory by eating her recipes or her favorite candy bar. (Sorry for so much personal reflection...)<br /><br />All that to say that grief adds unique stressors to those of us (OK - me) who manage emotions with food. You seem way ahead of the game.<br />JanAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com